You Are Forgiven

I did it.

I did not make the correct decision and I spent waaayyy too much time crying.

I neglected my child for the rest of the day.

I did not change out of my pajamas.

I let the kids eat whatever they wanted out of the refrigerator.

I did not clean the kitchen.

I did not unload the dishwasher.

Today was the day I grieved.

Nothing is wrong, everything is going as planned.

I forgive me.

I am forgiven.

I will move on to the next day and everything will be alright.

Remember, you have the option to be who you need to be every day.

If you have a hard time forgiving yourself, mom, let talk about it.

Text me and I will respond 636-393-8833 or click HERE to schedule some time on to talk.

BE A BETTER YOU!            BUT HOW??

Truly what is the definition of better?

I’ve come to realize its all based on how I want to evolve.

Have you really thought about evolution and what it has to do with you?

Last year was emotionally charged for me.

A couple of deaths, new business ventures, changes in employment, mothering at a higher level and weight among other things.

I made the decision to pay attention to my mind in January 2018.

Let me just say my mind went into a frenzy.

I paid close attention to its fears, suggestions, desires…..

And you know what, I found I could totally choose how to defeat my fears.

I used to think they had a hold on my me.

I would pray to God to remove them and I know he was helping but I still needed to do my part.

My part meant I needed to PUNCH MY FEARS IN THE FACE.

I have to think differently, I had to choose my own destiny and that’s what I did.

I got out a pen and paper and wrote down my fears and what I thought about each then choose a different thinking pattern.  I retrained my brain.

SAY WHAT, SAY WHAT

Yes, it’s true I retrained my brain.

You want to do it too??

Let’s chat at no cost to you simply click HERE to chat with me.

Coach Monaye – Brain Re-Imagined

Refresh or Renovate?

 

Sometimes we need or want a change
 
Something to look different.
 
To put a twinkle in your eye
 
That’s the way I think about mental health in regards to grieving
 
We have options nowadays:
We can choose therapy with a licensed mental health provider.
I really like that option, especially for individuals who are nonperforming
We get a chance to talk about the past, relive the memories of what occurred with
With the loved ones that are no longer here.
We get to learn tools to keep us functioning.

 

What happens beyond that stage and space?

 

This is where I see grief coaching.
We deal with the future you.
We talk about how you are living with this grief 1 day, 30 days, 3 months, 30 years from now.
We get the tools to take our grief from functioning to evolving.
We get to renovate our current thoughts around grief.

 


 

It’s akin to deciding what to do with the kitchen.

 

A couple of years ago I did a refresh. I painted the walls a new color, switched the knobs on all of the cabinetry, tightened all screws on all appliances, added a clock. The kitchen was refreshed and newer.   
REFRESH = THERAPY

 

This year I am going to replace everything.
I will get new appliances.
I will get new cabinetry.
The walls are going to stay the same but I am going to hang some pictures.
The structure of the kitchen is staying the same but all of the old things that have been
Around for decades are going to get replaced with something new.

 

RENOVATE = COACHING

 

Are you ready to renovate your grief?  Click HERE to find out how.

 

Talk to you soon,
 
Coach Monaye
 

SPRING & GRIEF

 
I live in the Midwest in the USA and the winter has been long and ever-changing this year.
 
We have experienced temperatures ranging from -4° F to 68° F
 
One day it is 68° with lots of sun and the next day there is 8-10 inches of snow and ice on the ground.
 
Spring weather please hurry up and get here asap!!
 
Changing of the seasons can get tricky for a lot of people.
 
Each new season my body gets very confused and wants to get sick.
 
Grief can be the same.

 
One day or moment your thermostat can be high when thinking of your loved one and then the thermostat can be very low.
 
There are times when your body may be very confused with trying to decide how to respond to you.
 
The good news is you can decide where you want your thermostat to stay.
 
You get a chance to choose the range, how to cool off or heat up.
 
Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall – You get to choose your season!!
 
To learn how, schedule a chat with me. CLICK HERE TO CHAT
 
Talk to you soon
 
Coach Monaye

Sticks and Stones and Words and Bones

Have you heard the old saying:

Stick and stones
May break my bones
But WORDS
Will never HURT me

Yeah I heard it growing up all my life and guess what???

I DIDNT BELIEVE IT ONE BIT!!!

Of course not.

All my life, I grew up hearing that statement but then I would hear a kid getting scolded
by an adult to apologize for hurting someone’s feelings.

Well, which is it?  Do words hurt or not?

I know the answer and words for sure will never hurt me.

What are we teaching our kids?

Especially our children that have experienced trauma.

Are we telling them to not listen to comforting words of others?

Are we telling them to not speak about the hurt and pain they feel from their grief?

Are we using works so lightly as parents because we don’t want to ‘upset’ our grieving kids?

Really take a look at how you may be tiptoe’ing in your speech because you believe words HURT.

Perhaps you don’t believe words do not hurt…. or

Only in light-hearted situation; not topics like rape and murder.

Well, you’re wrong, interested in chatting about it click here so we can talk.

Yes, I’m a Black Woman

In celebration of being a Black Woman in America, I wanted to highlight some Black History this month.

I for sure love my blackness and all the unique things that make me who I am including the coils in my hair.

I get to enjoy many cultural events and delicious food.

Today I want to highlight someone whose oration skills have been known to be the best in the world especially because he was illiterate and could not read.

Harry Hosier – Preacher, Orator, Encourager

Harry was known for giving moving sermons for blacks after the white preacher finished his sermon.

His skills were so impeccable that the white people would stay and listen as well.

Another black preacher asked Harry if he could teach him to read; Harry’s response was he lost the gift to preach when he attempted to learn how to read.

For more about Harry Hosier check out his bio HERE

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What I got from learning about Harry is he had a gift and he knew his purpose on Earth.

He went after it and did not allow it to be stripped by being distracted from ‘learning’ to read.

He recognized his talent and skill and chose to walk in it.

Have you identified your gifts, talents, skills?

Are you distracted by ‘learning’ and not doing?

Be like Harry, dispel the distractions and get to your Purpose!