Homicide and Mental Health

Simply said above!!!

How are you today????

Mommies it is extremely important that we take some time and check in with each other.

If not for ourselves first, perhaps do it for the kids.

I’m rocking the ūüíú¬† above *meh life could be better*

Check-in below, how are you today????

If you are rocking the ūüĖ§
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Make a Decision Already!!!

Have you been riddled with questions?

Have you ever been stuck in a loop of confusion and indecision?

Did you know our brain requests answers by the hour?

Constantly demanding us to make decisions.

How do you respond to the constant questions about EVERYTHING???

  • Should I press the snooze button
  • What am I going to wear
  • Are the kids up yet
  • Did I pack their lunch
  • I wonder how they are doing in school
  • Are they happy
  • Should I pull my hair back or curl it today
  • How do I look
  • Am I really thirsty
  • Are the kids still thinking about their dad
  • I wonder if the family is going to call me
  • Should I complete this project today
  • I wonder if my cuticles are ok
  • When do I get to go on vacation
  • When is the weather going to let up
  • What is my mom doing
  • What are we going to eat for dinner
  • Did the kids brush their teeth before they went to bed
  • How did I get this neck pain
  • I wonder if I can make my own moisturizer
  • Is there anything good on Netflix
  • ¬† ¬†and the questions go on and on and on and on….
But how do you respond?¬† Most people would say ‘I don’t know’
**Well, what if you DID know the answers???**
What if you asked your brain to come up with the answers to all of those questions?
That’s exactly what I have been doing lately. It is amazing how much stuff I really know when I try go to my brain for the answer.¬† Amazing eye-opening exercise that has LEVEL’ed UP my life.
Try it. Let me know what your brain comes up with.

Mothers are you stretched thin??

I was driving to work one morning and I saw a crew of construction workers stretching before starting their day.

Mom, are you stretched thin?

What organizations are you a member?

How many activities are your kids involved?

Are asking yourself are you stretched enough?

Let’s talk about the first.

Stop IT now. Choose 2 things and go all in.

How are you going all in on your activities? Are you only giving a little bit here and there?

Have you ever just said, let me complete this one thing and did it.

I mean literally have the metrics to show that you gave it your all?

That is the result of NOT being stretched thin especially as a mom.

Look at your schedule and see how you can thin it out  What are you removing to thin out your responsibilities?

National Handwriting Day

I love leaving my princess a little note every now and then.
I like to remind her of her awesomeness.
I like to remind her that she is ahmazing.
She gets a little boost in her day when she finds it in.
She keeps many of them to read again when classmates attempt to make her sad.
They give her a little boost when autoimmune side effects appear in unlikely circumstances.
She knows she is loved.
She knows: I HAVE HER BACK

When was the last time you wrote a little note to your kid? 

National Handwriting Day was established by the Writing Instrument Manufacturers Association in 1977.  Their motive is to promote the consumption of pens, pencils and writing paper.  January 23rd was chosen as this is the birthday of John Hancock.  John Hancock was the first person to sign the Declaration of Independence.

Got Stress??

Whew, let’s talk about stress baby, let’s talk about you and me, let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be, LET’S TALK ABOUT STRESS….let’s talk about Stress. (to the tune of a song by an all-girl rap group from my youth, you may know it. If so sing along, heeeeheee)

Is that you, are you a stressed mommy who want to just have a day of calm?

I for sure know all about that word.

As a full-time earner, new business owner, mother, wife, community advocate, ministry leader, gardner, many hats a mom wears, yada yada yada…….I CAN RELATE!

What I don’t do though is indulge in stress.

I have the tools to acknowledge when stress is about to rear his ugly head. BAM

But I remember being there. Here is what happened to my mind and body during stress;

  • forgot everything – appointments, paying bills, how to do simple things like making my favorite meals
  • yell a bunch at everyone – kids, co-workers, drivers
  • weakness in my body – physically unable to complete tasks, fatigued throughout the day
  • sleep loss – reeling in my head at night, toss and turn, least amount of sleep ever
A terrible time I had to coach myself through with the life coaching tools I learned.
The first step to get on the other side of stress to literally experience it.
To lean into the stress to find out what I need to learn about it.
To let it be.
After doing it a few times, I notice it sneaking up on me and I call it out – Not Today Stress, I See YOU!
If you want to learn how to process stress, hop on a call with me. Click this link to get er’ done.
Listen you do not have to be afraid of stress. You can totally own it. You got this.

Poetry should we do it or not??

As a little girl, I used to enjoy writing poetry.

By high school, we were required to write essays and critical analysis’s.

I let poetry fall by the wayside.

I didn’t pick it back up.

I found a journal of poetry when I was moving five years ago and cried. ..

RIH – Rest In Heavy Monaye’s Poetry

Poetry has always found a way into my heart to bring joy.
Whether through smiles or tears.

Rest-In-Peace Mary Oliver
The Summer Day
Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean-
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down-
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes?
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open and floats away.
I don’t know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
‚ÄĒMary Oliver

The Price of LOVE

Today I’m reminded of a person who was taken from this world.

I’m reminded of how I tried to hide my grief of his death for 14 years.

I’m reminded of how his son would never see him on this Earth again.

I grieved today and it’s OK.

I let it happen.

I allowed the tears to stream.

I didn’t resist, I didn’t hold back, I wasn’t embarrassed that those around me could hear me sob.

I CAN handle grief

I am not weak because I choose to grieve.

He was loved.